It’s easy being natural right? You follow your regiment to the T: cleansing every other week, co-washing weekly, wearing protective styles during the week, moisturizing every other day. Your hair is thriving and you’re happy, right? Sometimes we get so caught up in the “technical” routine that we forget to have fun with our healthy curls.
I was watching Oprah’s Life Class, and one particular episode focused on breaking ruts, getting out of your normal routine, and generally stepping outside of your box. She revisited some of her old episodes with ladies that had lost some of their zest for life and found ways to empower them. One group of single mothers who had been living an unfulfilled life – they went skydiving and found their spirits again. Another lady had always struggled with weight issues – she shed all of her clothes and ran through the neighborhood in her undies. Another lady had become a frumpy mom and lost her sexy – she wanted to find herself again so she got a makeover and had been practicing pole dancing to bring the spice back into her marriage.
This episode had me thinking about how this applies to my natural hair…am I stuck in a box? Technically I haven’t relied on a “box” in over 7 years, but does my hair put me into another box? I wear my staple twist out style pretty frequently and don’t usually divert from it, but maybe I should?
I’ve been doing a lot more experimenting with different styles, shapes, products…doing things I’ve only seen other naturals do. I guess I have a fear of doing something SO different, SO outside the box, that it won’t be received well. Maybe I’m scared sometimes….okay I’ll say it. I AM SCARED sometimes to wear my hair in different styles but it shouldn’t matter. It really shouldn’t matter how people are going to receive me…if somebody doesn’t like me for my hair then why should I care! I may not be my hair, but it is an extension of self. When I am confident in myself, I can pull off any hair style!
Don’t be afraid to step outside your box. Don’t get stuck in the same old routine. This adage can, and should be, extended beyond hair and into your everyday life….the only way to make a change is to do it. You can’t expect things to just happen if you don’t put forth the effort to make it happen. So take that plunge and do something different, discover who you are supposed to be!!
What are you going to change today?